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Breaking the Chains of Perfection: Navigating the Path to Self-Compassion

1/16/2024

 

The anxiety of perfectionism

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In a world that often glorifies perfection, the pursuit of ‘being perfect’ can unknowingly become a breeding ground for anxiety. The relentless desire to meet societal expectations and unrealistic standards creates a cycle of self-imposed pressure and constant comparison. 
 
The perfectionist mindset, fuelled by the illusion of an idealised existence, can lead to heightened levels of stress, depression, anxiety and burnout: 

  • High Standards and Unrealistic Expectations: Perfectionists often set exceedingly high standards for themselves, aiming for flawless performance in various aspects of life, including work, relationships, and personal achievements. Their expectations can be unrealistic and unattainable, leading to a constant sense of falling short.
  • Fear of Failure & Mistakes: Perfectionists are highly sensitive to the prospect of failure. The fear of making mistakes or not meeting their own standards can be paralyzing, hindering their ability to take risks.
  • All-or-Nothing Thinking: Perfectionists tend to engage in black-and-white thinking, viewing outcomes as either perfect or complete failures. There is little room for shades of grey or recognising progress.
  • Excessive Self-Criticism: Individuals with a perfectionist mindset are prone to harsh self-criticism. They magnify small errors and view them as significant failures, contributing to feelings of inadequacy.
  • Procrastination and Avoidance: Due to the fear of not meeting their high standards, perfectionists may procrastinate or avoid tasks altogether. This avoidance can be a way of protecting themselves from potential failure.
  • Constant Comparison: Perfectionists frequently compare themselves to others, measuring their success against external benchmarks. This tendency intensifies feelings of inadequacy and fuels the desire for unattainable perfection.
  • Difficulty Delegating: Perfectionists often find it challenging to delegate tasks to others because they fear that others won't meet their standards. This can lead to an overwhelming workload and increased stress.
  • Impaired Decision-Making: Making decisions becomes a laborious process for perfectionists, as they fear making the wrong choice. This indecisiveness can lead to missed opportunities and increased stress.
  • Rigid Self-Identity Tied to Achievements: Perfectionists often derive their sense of self-worth solely from their achievements. Their self-esteem is tightly linked to external accomplishments, based on judgements and opinions of others. This rigid self-identity can lead to a constant pursuit of validation from external influences and influencers.

It is well accepted that the intertwining dynamics of social media, peer comparison, and unrealistic standards contribute to the cycle.

Social Media profiles for example, are heavily filtered, with individuals showcasing only the most positive aspects of themselves and their lives, and these are often digitally enhanced. In addition, people often share their achievements, milestones, and celebratory moments on social media, this constant exposure to others' successes can foster a culture of comparison, making individuals feel as though they are falling short if their lives don't measure up to the perceived perfection displayed by their peers or influencers, even though those standards are untrue and unrealistic. Driven by likes, comments and shares, which individuals latch onto as a metric of worth, social media reinforces the idea that their value is tied to the approval of others. And FOMO (fear of missing out), whether on social media or in offline peer/friendship groups, can further compound a sense of not being good enough.
 
Striving for perfection, whether it’s in how you look, what you wear, your work achievements, your home & possessions, for so many people can bring immense feelings of pressure. To perform, to keep up, to prove oneself, to belong, to fit in (which is a basic human need), can be an exhausting cycle that that perfectionists can’t escape.  
 
As a hypnotherapist and NLP practitioner, I have witnessed first-hand the toll that this pursuit takes on individuals. Add in the external influence of other people’s expectations, judgements, standards and opinions and you really are up against it.

  • Negative Impact on Well-being: The pursuit of perfection can have detrimental effects on mental and physical well-being, contributing to stress, anxiety, and even symptoms of depression.
  • Personal Relationships: Perfectionism can strain relationships, as the perfectionist's expectations extend to others. The fear of not meeting one's own standards or having others fall short can create interpersonal tension, fostering social anxiety and loneliness.
  • Physical Manifestations: The chronic stress associated with perfectionism can manifest physically, leading to symptoms such as muscle tension, headaches, and digestive issues. The mind-body connection means that psychological distress often translates into physical symptoms.
  • Burnout and Exhaustion: The relentless pursuit of perfection can lead to burnout as individuals push themselves beyond their limits. The constant pressure to achieve perfection in multiple areas of life can result in emotional exhaustion, contributing to heightened anxiety levels.

Understanding these characteristics, both how the cycle works and the impact on oneself, is crucial for individuals wishing to develop emotionally, to improve their self-worth and sense of wellbeing.

Recognising the perfection seeking patterns that may contribute to the anxiety is a significant step toward cultivating a healthier mindset focused on authenticity, realistic goal-setting, and self-compassion.
 
Cultivating self-compassion and self-acceptance is a transformative journey that involves changing the way you relate to yourself. There are numerous tools to help you on this journey, here are my favourite practical tips and techniques to help foster self-compassion and self-acceptance:
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  • Learn to relax and find moments of peace, I teach so many people how to relax!
  • Listen to your inner voice
  • Challenge negative self-talk
  • Cultivate gratitude
  • Set realistic expectations
  • Celebrate small wins
  • Be your own cheer leader!
  • Surround yourself with positive influences
  • Use affirmations & mantras
  • Learn to let things go…..
  • Take time away from social media
  • Stay grounded, time in nature, be connected to mother earth
  • Develop a tool kit of therapeutic techniques, such as tapping, meditation, reiki, and self hypnosis
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But above all, be patient with yourself and allow room for growth. Embracing self-acceptance involves acknowledging imperfections as part of the human experience and treating yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would extend to others.

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