Why Traditional Counselling Doesn't Always Help in Healing

Therapy doesn't need to include lots of uncomfortable talking - hypnotherapy works with feelings

Many people turn to counselling for help with stress, anxiety, depression, grief, addictions. There’s no doubt the counselling helps many but for others, including myself, it’s not always been a great experience.
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Lets start at the beginning, if you are looking for help where do you go? If you are lucky enough a doctors referral. For others, an online search maybe?

Just a quick look through an online counselling directory and I can see hundreds of counsellors listed in my local area. All with different letters after their names. All specialising in different types of counselling. None of which necessarily make any sense to someone looking for help. In my quick research I was blinded by the jargon and the terms and phrases that make no sense whatever to me. Zillions of types of counsellors and types of therapies where you need a PHD to work out what they are. Just trawling through can make you feel confused, worried and on edge.

Taking it a step forward, in my personal experience, when I selected and found a counsellor (by looking at whose nearest because how else do you choose?) and sat down to talk, I found that actually I don’t want to talk.

• I didn’t want to over analyse something that’s been going round and round in my head for the past 6 months, year, decade.
• I didn’t want to self-reflect about my behaviour or that of others.
• I didn’t want to trawl through everything again and relive it all.
• I didn’t want to rake up past pain again.
• I didn’t want to spend months dreading the appointment, coming out every time in a worse state than when I went in.

I just didn’t want to do it.

• Because quite frankly I was tired.
• Worn out from the internal chatter.
• Worn out from trying to understand others behaviour, and that of my own.
• Exhausted from trying to see how I could have handled things differently.
• Fed up with going over and over and over it, again and again and again.
• I just want some help, some light at the end of the tunnel.

Maybe I picked the wrong counsellor? Maybe I had to work through the exhaustion? Maybe I was lazy?

Not for me, things were deeper than that, more profound.  I was dealing with emotions, not thoughts.

I came to a realisation, something that had been there the whole time but I had ignored it. Shit happens and sometimes we don’t know why, and no amount of talking about it is going to change the past. For some talking helps, but there comes a point where talking gets tiring. It wasn't talking about things that made me realise this, it was a feeling, my own gut instinct, my own survival mechanism. I started listening to myself rather than others.

So I looked for a therapy that didn’t involve talking, but involved energy and touch and natural instinct. Therapy that helped me with the feelings and emotions in my body, not the thoughts in my head.

And this is how Reiki and holistic healing came into my life. It enabled me to release past tension, pain, fear, worry, blockages, without having to relive them all.

It helped me to let go of the past. And made space for the future.

It gave me a new found energy, balance, and that light that I had been searching for. And it was soothing, calming, relaxing. I felt supported not judged. I felt loved not interrogated. I felt peace within. And the extra benefits.. wow.. I started to see things differently.. colours became more vivid for example, I could see both sides of a story rather than just mine.

​And I had this inner knowing that we can all help ourselves and each other without words. But with touch, vibes, and kindness.

Of course I'm not trained in psychotherapy/analysis/counselling. That's all too much theory for me. I'm not that clever.

But.. maybe I'm a little bit wise? maybe I heal from the heart not the head?

Letting go does not come easily. It takes practice to let go of the old and reach for something new. Today practice letting go of fear and listening to your heart. Pay attention to what it tells you... and check in with it often

I know it worked for me. And many of my clients have had similar experiences. So try everything and anything if you can, go with whats right for you. You will know when you find it.

Fi
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